The Art of Letting Go For the Moments That Matter
Oh, you think I haven’t been there?
Standing in my kitchen staring at an overflowing sink of dishes (again)… with ZERO desire to get them done.
Wish I could say I was the queen of getting it ALL done, but I’ve been there, done that, practically made the t-shirt for it myself.
We’ve all had those moments though haven’t we?
When we didn’t want to do one.more.basket.of.laundry...
Or, tidy the bathroom vanity…
Or, cook a wholesome meal with all the fixings…
Can I share a secret with you?
Let it go, sister. The guilt, the disappointment, the hustle to constantly do it all. We weren’t made to be robots that GO GO GO—so why should you?
Here’s what I’ve learned in my years trying to “balance it all” as a hardworking and devoted wife and mother… we CAN have it all… when we STOP TRYING TO HAVE IT ALL.
Confused? Stay with me here...
Balance is what happens in the moments that we slow down. It’s the successes and little wins we have when we say stop to breathe.
Okay, so the sink is full of dishes? But you snuck in a run before the sun went down, didn't you? And now your head is cleared, your muscles are stronger, and you’ll tackle the dishes when the babies are sleeping. Dishes don’t require sunlight—but today, you did. You took care of YOU—and I bet that makes you feel more prepared to take care of the ones you love, doesn’t it?
And I hear you… healthy, balanced meals ARE SO IMPORTANT. We aim for it as many nights as possible, too. Heck, I want to eat healthy just as much as I want my boys to eat healthy… but pizza every once in a while when we’re running home late from sports? Yes, mama, that’s fine, too. Instead of standing in the kitchen furiously cooking a last-minute meal, you played Pictionary with your kids until the pizza was delivered. Good for your soul? I think so.
Allowing ourselves to slow down and embrace the chaos just a bit opens the door and gives us space to do other things that make such a more meaningful impact. Think about it, 10 years from now, do you think your kids will remember a messy kitchen… or night spent building the biggest fort ever constructed in the history of all forts EVER constructed?
We both know the answer.
Give yourself some grace—and maybe a little self-care loving while you’re at it—and remember that in the grand scheme of things, you are doing an amazing job. You love fiercely and it shows.
So let the bed go unmade as you hurry out the door for your (overdue) date night with your hubs… you deserve it.
You’ll be so much better for it when you do.
As a stay at home mom to 4 living in Southern California with one income, I needed to help supplement income. Although I had very little expectations of the business due to my prior experience with direct sales, I opted to jump in. I didn’t initially know Kristen, but quickly respected her work ethic and passion. Kristen graciously mentored and coached me, along with my growing team. Kristen has a unique mind capable of strategy and the ability to read numbers and statistics in a way that rapidly produces growth. Her previous career gives her an advantage at seeing and producing growth that leads to big results. I have loved receiving the benefits of getting a glimpse into her mind and learning a whole way of leveraging systems of this business to maximize its full potential. In under three years, I created a six-figure income that has allowed me to give back more than I had ever imagined and to build a dream home for my family.
Kristen leads by example and truly is passionate about her business. She has shown me it it possible to build from anywhere, while also living a life you love. I am forever thankful for the time she has been so gracious to give and continues to lavish on her team.
– Ashlynn Herren | Jurupa Valley, California
I started my business with Rodan + Fields because of my friendship and past experience working with Kristen. When deciding if I was going to start my own business with R+F, it was important to me to have a mentor that could help me create a successful business. Kristen has a long, proven track record of success in every step of her career and Rodan + Fields has been no different. I came to R+F with no experience in direct sales and Kristen mentored me from day one on how to grow my business, alongside my full-time career in software. Led by her example, I have been able to leave my corporate career behind and be home with my three children, all while still having my own business. I could not have done any of it without her.
– Gayle Kalvert | Dix Hills, NY
In the beginning of 2015 I was in desperate need of a change. I was a full-time working mom in the financial industry, working long hours, add a long commute with two small children spending way too much time in day care. I felt I was failing in all areas of life… as a mom, as a wife and as an employee. I was lost and I needed to make a change but didn’t want to sacrifice time or money.
When Kristen and I first chatted, I had no idea how I would fit an at-home business into my already super busy schedule with work, family and play… but I knew I had to try because there really weren’t any other options. Kristen was able to be successful with a busy life and I knew she would be the perfect person to coach me how to do it all. Boy was I right! Kristen is an exceptional leader that always found the time to show me the way and help me grow and succeed! After 18 months of working with Kristen, I left my full-time job because I was able to match my corporate salary. A year later, I was able to double it and our life looks very different now, thanks to this opportunity and Kristen’s guidance. Our family is forever grateful!
– Kelly Koury | San Diego, CA
Kristen is one of the most strategic, forward thinking and driven entrepreneurs that I’ve ever known. Since the day she made the decision to start her own business, I knew that she would be a force. Not only has she proven that to be true, she proves it on a daily basis.
When you work with Kristen, she motivates you to step up your game, pushes you to your full potential and inspires you to be more creative, because that is how she operates.
I am so thankful to have locked arms with her as a business partner and have loved watching every second of her journey into becoming the strong leader she is today.
– Melissa McCarthy | Wyckoff, New Jersey